Five Problems with Social Media

I have decided to do this 30 Day Writing Challenge. I am going to stick to it as much as possible, although I can’t remember the last time that I actually did something that I said I was gonna do for 30 days. Perhaps that’s why I need to do this. To actually try some shit and stick to it. We’ll see what happens, shit… stop pressuring me.

Ok. The first one says: Five Problems with Social Media.

  1. False Familiarity. There was this guy who I met on Facebook who decided he wanted to be my friend IRL, I guess. We talked on the phone once, and then every time he would call me after that, it felt too familiar. There was no awkward, “Hey, how are you? How you been?” It was just full in with his problems, etc. I feel like it was because he already felt like he knew me. He could read a lot of the details of my life on Facebook, because I am a very transparent person, but I still tailor those messages. I don’t pre-write them, but I’m deliberate when I write them. You don’t know me, you know the me I want you to see.
  2. Jealousy. Just like the line above, while I’m showing the me I want others to see, so is everyone else. But, if you sit and look at the lives of others and feel envious, well…that’s something you need to address about yourself. Ask yourself where and why you feel the shortcomings that you do that are inspiring these feelings within. This would call for you to be highly self-aware though, and most jealous people aren’t. I know for a fact that I am jealous of two things on social media. People who (like me) also had weight loss surgery and lost way more weight than me and girls who can draw fire ass eyeliner on their top lid. (Damn you and that wing.)
  3. Obsession. I am on my phone all the time. I mean all the time. It’s just starting to bother me now that other people are mentioning it. It bothered me that when I was visiting my best friend in Austin a couple weeks ago, she complained, “You have been on that phone this whole trip.” I could see if I was working or checking emails. I wasn’t, I was on Facebook and Instagram. Now some of it was writing related, I had done a few major articles that were trending, but mostly I was just lurking. I was busy looking at other people’s lives, that I wasn’t spending time with the person right in front of me.
  4. Irritation. Some people have shitty social media habits. They have bad grammar, they share shit without reading it, they keep killing the same damn people over and over again. They share negative or violent shit not knowing that contributes to it going viral. It irritates the shit out of me, and sometimes I will chime in like… “That’s satire.” In response to the post about a lady burning her husband with McDonald’s fry grease or whatever dumb shit. But, I ain’t the online police, so write whatever you want. Just know I’m gon unfollow your goofy ass.
  5. Nothing. There are a few things about social media that can be annoying, or weird, or even scary. But, honestly, I still love it. I live alone in a strange city, and Facebook is like having all of my friends and family at my fingertips. They make me laugh when I feel like crying, they are cheering me on when I feel low. Social media is pretty cool when you use it well. I am realizing more and more as my name gets out there more and more, how important it is for me (as a brand) to curate my images and my posts. But, that isn’t true for most people. Most people are just online to have fun, share baby pictures, and stay in touch with friends from high school. And that’s ok.

“Everything in moderation…even moderation.” –Eleanor Roosevelt


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