“Never looking back or too far in front of me/The present is a gift/and I just wanna BE.” -Common, “Be (Intro)” BE, 2005.
BE is widely considered Common’s “safest” album. It followed his previous, Electric Circus, which flopped due to lack of promotion and an overall unfocused quality. Where Electric Circus was all over the place, BE was focused and singular in it’s theme and direction. The album title was also rumored to stand for “Before Erykah,” following his public split with former girlfriend, Erykah Badu. However, in an interview with Sixshot.com, Common stated, “I named it BE to be who you are, man, and be able to be in the moment and not try too hard. BE is another way of saying just do without trying hard, like I said, natural and be true to the core of who you are; and this album, I wanted to just be and not just go and exist as just an artist, not worried about the past.”
Common is right. Never looking too far behind, or too far ahead is a great way to live. Romans 8:25 states, “But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” Present and patient in the moment. These verses, reminded me to stay in the moment. It is right to plan, and prepare…but to always remember that God is the greatest of planners. Staying in the moment allows me to hear what it is that the Universe is guiding me to do.
In this article, 9 Things Remarkably Successful People Never Do on inc.com, the very first point is to not allow one’s past to dictate their future. The rest of the list was just as awesome, I hope you enjoy it.
- They never let their past dictate their future.
- We all have limitations. We all have challenges. We all make mistakes. The key is to not be constrained by those things but to learn from them. Take mistakes: When something goes wrong, turn it into an opportunity to learn something you didn’t know — especially about yourself. Where you’ve been, what you’ve done — everything in the past is just training.
- They never gossip.
- The next time you’re tempted to talk about another person, think about whether you would say what you’re about to say to that person. When remarkably successful people want to share the inside scoop, they just speak openly about their own thoughts and feelings. That way they’re not gossiping. They’re just being genuine.
- They never say, “yes,” when they mean, “no.”
- When you say no, you only feel bad for a few moments. When you agree to something you really don’t want to do, you may feel bad for a long time — or at least as long as it takes you to do what you didn’t want to do in the first place.
- They never interrupt.
- Want better professional relationships? Want better personal relationships? Listen, truly listen, to what other people say. Then ask questions to make sure you understand. Remarkably successful people already know what they think — they want to learn from what everyone else thinks.
- They’re never late (without an incredibly good reason).
- Remarkably successful people start the day a little day earlier. They arrive early to their first scheduled event. They don’t worry that they’ll waste time — they plan ahead and bring along whatever they need to use any “early” time to get a few simple things done. Then they feel a lot less stressed and as a result are more insightful, more creative, more decisive, and simply more “on” in everything they do.
- They never resent.
- Take it from Nelson Mandela: “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.” The same holds for bitterness. And jealousy. And dislike. When you hold on to ill will, the only person who loses is you.
- They never decide they don’t have the time.
- Figure out what’s important to you. Strip away all the stuff that isn’t. Then make it happen.
- They never fit in (just to fit in).
- While other people may in fact like our “things,” that doesn’t mean they like you. (And even if they do, that doesn’t mean you like yourself.) Remarkably successful people have decided to simply be who they are.
- They’re never afraid to do the things that matter.
- We’re all afraid. We’re scared of what might or might not happen. We’re scared of what we can’t change. We’re scared of what we won’t be able to do. We’re scared of how others might perceive us. And that makes us hesitate, wait for the right moment, decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives, and days, weeks, months, and even years pass us by. And so do our dreams. Don’t let your fears hold you back. Whatever you’ve been planning, whatever you’ve imagined, whatever you’ve dreamed of, get started on it today.